Find That Special Person!
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If you’re single, you may well be seeking a potential life partner – That Special Person (TSP) to complete your life and happiness. Most single people would prefer not to be! |
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Why would I need help to find TSP? |
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1. Perhaps because you haven’t found him or her yet! Many people spend a lifetime searching without success. Many end up in an inappropriate relationship that does or doesn’t last, and are very unhappy, realising after a few months or years that the person they are with isn’t TSP. This affects other areas of their lives – at least two of England’s current cricket team can vouch for that through losing their places as a result of relationship problems (according to news reports) – one has actually sacrificed tens of thousands of pounds because of it! |
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2. Not all of us are born with the skills required. Some of us acquire them through trial-and-error, but how long can that take?! Maybe a lifetime! |
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TSP must accept me as I am – I’m not changing for anyone. |
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Look back five years. Have you changed since then? One year, even. We are constantly changing – maturing, if you like. We can’t avoid it physically, and we can’t really avoid it emotionally and mentally. Experience teaches us new approaches, ideas, etc., and gives us greater understanding. Many people with whom we come into contact (perhaps even characters in books and television soaps) affect our thinking and feelings. In the recent television series "Would Like to Meet", two men only ever wore certain types of clothing, and were extremely reluctant to change, as they said that their clothes reflected their personalities. When they were persuaded (with some difficulty!) to wear completely different clothing, they gained new insights into themselves, increased in confidence, and away they went! However, you don’t necessarily have to make radical changes to find That Special Person! |
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I don’t want to change – I like who I am. |
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Great! You’re half way there. But I think we have established that we can’t really avoid at least some change. It doesn’t mean your basic character will change from a Pisces type to a Gemini, or from a staid type to a fluid one! But seeing aspects of yourself from different perspectives will help growth in a positive way. Most people change – "evolve" if you like – in a hit-and-miss way, at worst they can become miserable, cynical, negative and lonely. |
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How can I become the person I want to become? |
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With guidance from a coach at Jamforlife. We can’t do it for you. Only you can make your own decisions, which is really what we are talking about, making decisions. Many people "decide" just to drift in and out with the tide, going along with the flow and following others. We can give you ideas and pointers, help you to become stronger (we all need that – those of us who think we are strong enough are almost certainly weaker than those who recognise the need to grow in strength). Your basic character will always be the same, of course, but you can live in different aspects of it – for a simple example, positive or negative, and we often go through different phases of our lives. We can be influenced and controlled by events, or we can take control of our lives. Obviously we are affected by events and outside influences, but it is in our responses that we make our decisions and grow spiritually and emotionally. It isn’t complicated – or even particularly difficult! J |
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But I don’t want to be told that I am not good enough as I am. |
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You are "good enough". You wouldn’t be reading this otherwise! (Obviously the converse isn’t true!). You will plenty of positivity and laughter with jamforlife! |
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Sounds too heavy, boring and time consuming for me – I just wanna have fun! |
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What could possibly be more fulfilling and enjoyable than learning about yourself and searching for and finding That Special Person? A roller coaster ride might be fun, so might a football match or an evening in the pub. But these are short lived. Nobody’s suggesting it will be all downhill – how will you develop your muscles if you never walk uphill? When it becomes a necessity, you won’t be able to. We at jamforlife really want you to enjoy the journey and reach your goals. |